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I am not a psychologist, neither have I had any training in relationship advice. However I have been married to a wonderful girl for the past five years and, during that time, we have never had a fight or shouted at each other. Every day is a day of peace and love and I find her just as exciting now as the day I fell in love with her. Over the years I have come to understand her mind and I believe that I have discovered the key to a happy relationship. It certainly works for me and maybe it will work for you. Let me [url=http://www.jeremyparendt.com/Barbour-Paris.php]barbour pas cher soldes[/url] explain that I am from the UK and met my wife from Indonesia where we still live. So let's start with appreciation. Have you noticed that [url=http://www.paolofranco.it/scarpe-hogan/]scarpe hogan[/url] when you throw a ball for a puppy and he happily runs over, picks it up and returns to you and you then pat him on the head, make a fuss of him and tell him what a clever dog he is? His tail will wag wildly (In the case or our Rottweiller, his STUB will wag wildly). He just loves appreciation and will happily sit there waiting for you to throw the ball again. Personally I have a habit [url=http://siemprelucenafc.es/?option=com_content&view=article&id=115]doudoune moncler Should Your Child Use Parental Co[/url] of forgetting where I leave my reading glasses. One day, when I was searching for them, one of my wife Yuyun's young relatives found them and returned them to me. I thanked him and said "Wow, what a smart boy you are." His chest swelled and his face beamed. After that, whenever he got the opportunity he would "find" my glasses, even if I knew where they were, just so he could hear some words of praise. You know, I don't think that we don't really grow up. We just get older. I love that very appropriate saying "The only difference between a man and a boy is the cost of his toys."
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I suppose you could call this consideration. Both Yuyun and I are considerate. If we see someone pushing a motorbike we will stop and see if we can help them. If we see a child crossing the street, we will make sure that they get across safely. This is our nature. I'm not sure that anyone who is not considerate can change but maybe you can force yourself to consider the feelings of your partner. Yuyun for instance likes constant attention. She regularly wants to be hugged and loved. I like to keep my brain active so spend some considerable time writing computer programmes and solving the most difficult Sukodu puzzles. This takes a lot of concentration, trying to remember a series of numbers in my head and I hate to be interrupted. However, when Yuyun wants attention or wishes to talk, I immediately put the thing aside and give her my full attention. I [url=http://www.mquin.com/pjsdoudoune.php]doudoune parajumpers[/url] always remember the story of a fish tank in which there was a glass partition. On one side was a large ferocious fish [url=http://www.piktor.fr/doudoune-moncler/]doudoune moncler[/url] and on the other side a small placid one. The big fish tried to attack and eat the little fish but all he got was a sore nose. After a few days, he got tired of all that and gave up. Then the partition was removed but the big fish still had no interest in chasing the little fish and found his food elsewhere. The analogy of that story is that if you reject someone's love enough times, then they will stop trying and maybe go to someone else.
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I am from Sheffield in the UK and have lived in several other countries including France, Canada, USA, Bahamas, Jamaica and Colombia. I am now living in Indonesia which I personally believe is the best of the bunch. I am married to a much younger girl and we are so happy together that we started a webpage to introduce Western men to Indonesian women link to our webpage Yahoo Messenger ID is exbrit69
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